I believe that the importance of “understanding emotions” is under rated in our society. Medias and self-help books try to promote Emotional Intelligence but at the end of the day it is often addressed as trend. Emotions are often featured a bit like fashion accessories or home-décor tips and tricks…
I consciously started to travel the world of my emotions in my forties. As a girl, I studied at private school with the nuns and loved it. I recalled learning about French, English, Latin, Religion, Math, Biology, History, Geography, Chemistry, and Physique. I learned all kind of sports and had fun with arts and craft! Did someone taught us about emotions? No, I had never heard of it.
Every night of the week, I was going to ballet school and loved it. Dance always have been my true passion and my first love. When I stopped dancing fifteen years later, I sheltered dance in my heart. I locked it and threw away the key far behind my back and never looked back. For the next twenty years, when I encountered anything “dance”, I ran away as fast as I could to avoid it. I was feeling “deep emotional pain” but I had no clues what to do with it. Therefore I repressed it and moved on.
For me, dance has never been a channel of self-expressions. I love dance because it was an intense amazing trip where I could escape for hours, forget my unhappy home life and stayed focus in the beautiful world of dance. It gave me the feeling of freedom. On the other hand, it was a fantastic experience of “Being One”! One with the moves, one with the music to the point I became the music. I was one with the floor, space, movements, rhythms… This unique feeling of “being one” with the universe was exhilarating… I never dance to express my emotions and I never really understood why other dancers would say that. In retrospect, I must say that I did not know what emotions really were other than happy or sad.
Later on, I studied visual art at Cegep for two years. I had to take two courses just on “colours” for 12 weeks each, three hours per week. Why was I mixing colours for three long hours week after week? Well as an artist, you have to understand colours… The more you play with it, you learn what they are and how to use them… At university, I had to pick a few course outside my faculty. I chose a course on winter camping. Now that was fun! I studied all kind of topics like nutrition, management even philosophy… But I never signed up for the course about “Emotions” because it did not exist. It just fascinates me to see how “Emotions” aren’t in school curriculum… It is interesting to notice that school created space for sex education, but not for emotions… Hmmm… If we want the world to be a better place and reduce the cost of healthcare and reduce the divorce rate; let’s start by teaching “Emotional Intelligence” in primary school!